What it Means to be a Muslimah Wife..

 

Some believe that a Muslimah is forced into oppression… to be a slave to her husband… forced to stay in the home without a life…. Nothing could be further from the truth. A Muslimah is a treasured jewel with a very important role in life, with her husband, for her children, as a sister, friend, a role model to all. And above all else, for Allah.

 

Allah has created men and women differently for a reason. Perhaps some women can carry out the role of a man, or a man can carry out the roles of a woman… but, if we are honest with ourselves… men are more suited to work for long hours, doing harder jobs, while women are more suited to be caregivers. Mothers can provide to their families and children love and emotions which are generally foreign to an average man. Men, on the other hand, are typically more rational, thereby allowing them to easily oversee many projects, in a calculated and logical manner.

 

Women mistakenly think, that in order to be strong, they should behave like men. They should fight for their independence. Their right to work and strive hard like a man. To be in the public domain. As a prior independent western woman, I can tell you, that role is seriously misleading. It is tiring, difficult, and takes away from a woman everything that is beautiful and sacred about her unique characteristics – her fitrah.

 

It has been said before, that behind every man, is an even stronger woman. I believe this is probably true. If only women today would see the value in their natural inclinations. Their desire to love, to care for others… As a manager of the home, a woman has an amazing responsibility. Maybe even more than a man! She should take care to raise her children in the right manner. To help her husband. To make sure he is happy and relaxed and capable of fulfilling HIS repsonsibilites.

 

“The Muslim woman is the initial teacher in the building of a righteous society, providing she follows the guidance from the Book of Allaah and the Sunnah of His Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam.” (Read article)

 

If a woman is not taking care for her children and husband, than who will? I would like for you to honestly think about the state of society in the western world today. Remember the old tv programs, like Leave it to Beaver? And what is the ideal family on the television today? What is the behaviour of your children’s peers and what was it like for you? Do you see the drastic differences? Think seriously about the state of the family… the divorce, the infidelity, the violence and nervousness in children and parents?

 

Through Islam, Allah has defined for us our responsibilities and goals. Women do have individual rights:

 

“They have the right to inherit property and to have their marriage dissolved in the case of neglect or mistreatment. Also, Islam does not consider woman an “evil temptress”, and thus does not blame woman for the “original sin”. Women in Islam participate in all forms of worship that men participate in. Actually, the rights that Islam gave to women over 1400 years ago were almost unheard of in the West until the 1900s.” (Read article)

 

However, Allah has also defined in the Quran our roles and responsibilities to succeed in society, in this dunya, and more importantly, in the hereafter.

 

Men and women are created unique to compliment each other and help each other to strive for the betterment of themselves, their family and society. Material values are an important aspect in developing and maintaining the home, but is by no means, the most important aspect. To put it briefly, “The mother is a school, educate her and you educate a nation.” We should never forget that our spouse is our partner in a common mission: toward the creation of a morally sound Islamic home. To build and maintain this home, is the most important role a woman can have, for herself, her family, the community, and most importantly, for her Lord, the All-Wise, and Most-Just Creator, Allah.